Time Does Not Heal All Wounds

There are pains so deep that they tear the soul. It is as if we fell into a deep abyss with a hidden exit. In this context, what they often tell us is that time heals all wounds, when it is not always the case.

Life has ups and downs, and each one in their uniqueness assumes them in a different way. The truth is that, sometimes, it is difficult for us to overcome difficult situations because the sea of ​​emotions overwhelms us. So we don’t know where to start.

And, one way of assuming the inconveniences that they teach us is that time heals everything. But it is not always true. Therefore, through this post we will show you various reasons. Join us on this tour!

Time does not heal all wounds, it hides them

After a painful injury, we tend to say “time healed it.” Now we wonder, was it really like that? When we let the second hand advance, keeping a passive attitude, it is difficult for deep wounds to heal . Rather, the cut may be anesthetized, but not healed.

Why can this happen? We may not want to see that pain ; So, we prefer to fill ourselves with activities, not think about it, get away from the stimuli that can rescue certain memories for the focus of consciousness. Also, it can be a masked emotion. In this sense, pain does not have to manifest itself as sadness, it also often manifests as anger or even euphoria.

Thinking that can help us drive away our emotions and thoughts

There are pains that have no name, it is a suffering that we cannot label, that slips when trying to translate it into words. In these cases, we can try to encapsulate it and send it to the most remote place of our memory.

We are talking about a defense mechanism. What it does is expel desires, feelings and thoughts from consciousness. According to Sigmund Freud, father of psychoanalysis, it is a way of rendering content unacceptable to us unconscious.

Time does not run when we are passive

By granting healing power to time, we attribute a responsibility that corresponds to an external agent . We let events pile up on that book that we have to return to the library in the hope that the pile will erase it from psychic reality … just as it will erase it from our sight.

The great danger of proceeding in this way is that what remains buried does not stop eroding our motivation, weighing down our will or penalizing our objectives. Thus, we can reach that point where it continues to hurt us, but without being able to identify what hurts us because it has been buried.

On the other hand, what can happen is that by attributing to time a leading role that it does not have (it is a mere scenario), it means belittling or relegating those strategies that we were able to implement to shape those scars that we did manage to generate.

This can be an obstacle to overcome future difficulties, to go to the rescue of strategies that did succeed. It can also be a headwind for our self-esteem, belittling footholds on which it could grow. In this way, the idea that time heals wounds can be one of our worst enemies, contaminating our way of proceeding on the psychic level when choosing coping strategies.