The Effects Of Nicknames On Couples
The nicknames couples are loving names to call each other: love, king, my life, etc. In addition, within these nicknames we can find those that are more common but also some that have been specially designed for a member of the couple, unique in their kind.
But did you know that a new study affirms nicknames in couples strengthen and increase satisfaction in the relationship? Well yes, or so says a study conducted in 1993 by Carol Bruess and Judy Pearson of the University of Ohio. The study was conducted with different types of couples, from newlyweds to those who had been together for many years. Most had at least one nickname, some even several.
Nicknames in couples indicate emotional health
Why is the use of nicknames in couples a test of emotional health?
- In the first place, because they indicate that they have their own private world, because in the end to share something we do not need anything more than communication, in this case language.
- Second, the nickname is often used to express contentment or discontent. Thus, when the couple refers to the other by a name other than the nickname: either the couple is in a formal context (in which the forms must be maintained), or the person who omits the nickname is angry. Nicknames facilitate empathy between members of a couple.
Thus, although it is true that we cannot read the mind of our partner, elements such as the nickname can be great facilitators of empathy. In the opposite sense, the nickname can also be used to claim a moment of intimacy or in an argument to soften the position of the other component of the couple.
Nicknames in Couples: Should Everyone Look It Up?
That said, the question is obvious. From now on , should we consider looking for a nickname for our partner? Well, we leave that to the choice of each one but, if you dare, we give you a few tips so that your choice is correct:
- The nicknames of a lifetime work very well. Honey, honey, my love, my life.
- Choose the appropriate nickname according to your partner. If he’s rocker or goth, calling him “cool daddy” or “my black one” is probably not going to be too successful.
- It is not very convenient that you use a nickname that highlights some negative quality of your partner. “My grumpy”, “gordi” or “pequitas” does not usually favor the relationship much and in times of crisis it can subtract instead of add if the self-esteem of the other person is not good.
- For some, using ito / ita as “little thing”, “little thing”, “sweetie” is always very effective. However, to others it may seem like the worst hymn to kitsch.
- There are nicknames for sweet tooth, like “cupcake”, “caramelito”; for animal lovers like “kitten” or “tiger”, majestic nicknames like “my king”, “princess” … or for lovers of Cuban son “mommy”, “papi”, “black”, “black” …
Having said that, we invite you to try to find a nickname if you don’t have one. Out of context or coldly analyzing it, it can seem very cheesy and cloying. But it can also be a good excuse to have fun with your partner for a while. Everything that you join and share with her, everything that belongs to your world. What you have created in a positive context will always unite you.
Do you and your partner have any nicknames?
