Behind The Frequent Anger There Is Also Pride

Behind frequent anger, pride is very often hidden. They are profiles that always need to be right, who do not tolerate being contradicted or corrected and who are also constant victims of their own frustration. Thus, it is important to emphasize that, behind arrogance, narcissism is found, thus forming a very exhausting type of personality.

It is often said that the proud will never acknowledge their “sins.” He won’t because his nose is so close to his mirror that he can’t even see himself. However, we have become so used to this type of presence in our surroundings that almost without realizing it we have ended up normalizing narcissism and pride. We see it in the political elites, we see it in our companies and we even see it in a part of the new generations.

All these profiles, apparently so distant from each other, actually show some common characteristics. No matter how old they are, they are people  “who know everything”, those to whom no one can teach or show anything because “they already have a great vital filming. ” In addition, they are also characterized by relegating the needs of others to the background and having the emotional maturity of a 6-year-old child.

In this way, those who deal with them on a daily basis will already be familiar with their frequent anger. They have “very thin skin” and very high pride, we know, hence at the slightest they “jump”, lose control and  show such common behaviors as stopping talking to us for a while  or simply falling into disqualification for having upset them in some small and insignificant aspect …

Frequent anger and what’s under this makeup

Pride is still a suit, a porcupine costume where the quills act as defensive barriers to prevent anyone from intuiting fears, weaknesses of character and weaknesses. In this way, if someone tells me that I should be more patient and take things calmly, I will not hesitate to be on my guard and raise my quills (they have questioned my good work). It will not matter whether that person made the comment to me in good faith: I will take it as an affront.

Self-esteem in this type of profile is very low. However, this feeling of inferiority is often transformed into a spring of aggressiveness, a catapult charged with anger, spite and bitter frustration. Likewise, the need to be on top of us in any situation, circumstance or context, in turn shapes that “fallacy of authority” where no one should discredit them, where opposing them, even in the most trivial aspect, is an insult. .

Pride is in these cases a sophisticated compensation system. Thus, the most interesting thing about these profiles is that this suit full of spikes is usually forged in childhood as a way to hide insecurities. Later, it becomes a way of reacting to problems or disappointments. This is so because the arrogant personality instrumentalizes arrogance and aggression as a way of marking territory, as a channel to validate itself.

Although with this, what they really achieve is to create distances and move in a circle of superficial relationships.

What to do in the face of the frequent anger of those people around us?

Behind the frequent anger there is a clear problem of emotional management, self-esteem and psychological balance. No one can live under the scab of chronic anger, wrapped in its lion’s mane and roaring every two by three. Therefore, if in our environment we have a person who constantly drifts in this type of dynamic, there is something that we must be clear about: the problem is not ours, we are not the cause of their discomfort, the problem, in reality, they have it.

When anger becomes your way, nothing will grow around you. Likewise, if under this skin is pride and that narcissistic personality that wants to control everything and wants to find a benefit in everything, the best we can do in these cases is to put distance and not waste energy confronting them.

Because pride is not cured by arguing, it is about allowing the proud to look at himself in the mirror and shed his lion’s jaws and his porcupine costume. Beneath all those skins are its fragility, its nooks and crannies of emptiness, its labyrinths of insecurities and even, why not, even that still scared inner child that continues to respond with anger to what it does not like.

Frequent anger, believe it or not, is the order of the day in the lives of many adults. Therefore, it is worth investing time, attention and a good dose of affection in our children, in those little ones who, from a very early age, are often frustrated and tell us that “now I get angry and I can’t breathe”.

Let’s manage these situations well, let’s educate correctly.