Take Care Of What Makes You Happy

Take care of what makes you happy, what makes you smile, immerses you in a sea of ​​calm and invites you to disconnect from the web of everyday life. What makes your skin crawl, makes you jump for joy and invites you to be better, but also what makes you learn and grow personally.

We waste so much time throughout our lives that, sometimes, we forget to take care of what is important : those details, moments and people who give us a dose of happiness, wisdom, tranquility and love, a lot of love, despite setbacks, rains and dark clouds.

But they will not always be there, everything will not always happen as we expect and this can frustrate us, although it also makes us see everything we had and did not know how to take advantage of. It teaches us to value, to differentiate what is valuable from what is temporary … Therefore, take care of what makes you happy and do not leave it for later.

The false security of “tomorrow”

We are experts in procrastinating, procrastinating, or later. We trust that nothing will change, neither the experiences nor the people. The point is that no matter how confident we are, uncertainty is more real than all our expectations and assumptions put together. We cannot be sure of anything.

Maybe tomorrow we will not see our partner, our mother, father or brother … Maybe that friend with whom we share so much will turn her life around and in a few weeks go to another destination or we may have the days numbered in our work, city or neighborhood … Maybe it doesn’t happen anymore, but the passage of time brings about changes, losses and gains. We cannot forget it. 

It is not bad to wait, patience also has its virtues, but when it comes to feelings, bonds and relationships, it is better to express everything that we keep inside. Rather because one day it may be too late.

“Thank you”, “I’m sorry”, “I love you” or “How good you do me!” are expressions that increase in value when they go abroad for two simple reasons:

• They express appreciation. When we say them to someone they imply the message that they are important to us and we value their company, their way of being, and not just what they do for us, even when we ask for forgiveness.
• They strengthen ties. Giving and receiving love and appreciation consolidates relationships based on authenticity and love. It is a way of caring through the recognition of feelings and tightly sewing the threads that bind us to the other person.

Now, we cannot forget that time is also running out for us, to do what we have on our to-do list and that makes us happy. Whether it is reading a novel, visiting that country we want so much, starting that project that comes from our hearts, letting ourselves be carried away by music and dancing or playing the piano … Therefore, let’s not forget to reserve a few minutes or a few hours for what we like it and that it gives us so many beautiful moments.

The problem of focusing on what you lack

One of our biggest problems is that we pay more attention to what we lack and want, than to what we have around us. Think about it.

We observe the world from a negative filter that is responsible for identifying everything that we do not have, instead of thanking what we do have. Thus, it is normal that our bad days win, the troubles or that feeling that we always have something left …

This happens because our brain has a certain tendency towards negativity, due to its long trajectory to guarantee our survival. It is an evolutionary question that, to this day, is a bit outdated in some situations, but not all, of course. The good thing is that knowing that it exists we can take it into account.

How about we give this habit a spin? What if every day we took a few minutes to identify everything that makes us good? Do the test.

The happiness of small details

It does not take great deeds or sacrifices to recognize the value of all that does us good. Often times, it is the small details that make the difference, those that give off attention, understanding and affection, those that give us calm, peace and tranquility, that connect us with the present, love and our interior.

A good morning when you wake up, a call to ask you how are you, smiles, caresses, hugs or simply a silence that accompanies bad days are very powerful gestures that give happiness. Also the aroma of coffee or the rain while leaving a book near the window, the pleasure of walking around your favorite place or simply the possibility of resting after an exhausted and stressful day.

Sometimes the simplest is the most valuable and we are not even able to perceive it. Quite the contrary: we insist on pursuing happiness in the wrong ways, without perceiving that it is closer than we think.

The key? Our attitude. If once and for all we accept that we have a lot around us to be thankful for and for which to feel good, if we insist on seeing beyond our negative filter and if we begin to recognize as valuable both the time of others and our own everything it will begin to take another perspective.